The Youth Voice Project, a large-scale research effort conducted to gain insight about youth perceptions of bullying, surveyed over 13,000 youth in grades 5 through 12. Three thousand of the youth reported bullying behavior by peers at least two times or more in the previous 30 days. This group of youth was asked what helped them and what made things worse when it came to dealing with bullying experiences. The advice given to them by well-intentioned adults either made things better or worse. Here are some examples of what not to say and what to say following bullying experiences.
According to youth, adults should not say:
According to youth, adults should say/ask:
Knowing what to say (and what not to say) can help youth move more quickly though bullying experiences and grow stronger and more resilient when faced with future difficulties.